The idea for the Tell us About it project was about Toxic relationships and love. It started with the idea when I went round to a friend’s house and she told me she had been on a date with a guy who had pulled out a Kinder egg and inside he was carrying drugs. They went on to have a relationship that ended really badly. He was not the person she thought he was. It was an image and story that stuck in my mind and wanted to explore. What do you keep in you kinder eggs? As a symbol for things we hide away, things that have happened to us.
Exploring symbolic ways I can express finding out someone is not who they seem. Hiding things.
Toxic love.
Why are people abusive? What is it that has happened to them in their lives? My therapist tells me it all comes from experiences we had during our childhood. We develop ways of coping with the world. Why do people have addictive personalities? Is it because of pain they have been through?
Trying to recall memories and trying to draw out the symbolic in them. I dated a man once who burnt a cigarette into my arm. We were drunk, he said it was an accident. I wasn’t so sure. He smoked 2 to 3 packs a day. He had been kicked out the house by his mum when he was 17. He had a lot of emotional issues and then he dumped me.
Cigarette love symbols. We feel calm when we smoke. He wanted his cigarettes more than he wanted me. Cigarettes are addictive just like lovers. But you are in love with something toxic, something that is not good for you.
I also dated a guy once who was addicted to the sweet fizzy Lucozade drink. He mixed He used to down a litre of it before having sex. He told me his mother never loved him. It always goes back to the mother.
Abstract pill packet interpretation.
Final Outcome for Tell us about it.